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math
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Hi,
i wanna know if anybody got good hints for me what to do . I got friend whos like very very sensitive and last time we argued already about when i said "i dont like". its like any stuff he takes it so many times as personal attack. so i try to be careful. but even such words like "i dont like" is too much it seems. today we had it again and now still argue. but i really dont know how else to say it. i mean i can say "i dont appreciate that u do this or that" but i dont think its a big difference. He always starts talking like hes such a shit person and everything. but i didnt say and mean it. He says i complain him so much. But i think im just telling when i got a problem. I also learned some rules in a communication course before for trying to avoid arguements. like dont talk like "u did, u did , u did" n such things. I also say i understand why hes doing certain things. but i really dont know what to do now! i just wanna tell when i got a problem and not argue everytime. and then it ends with him ijuring himself or something? i dont like this.
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Mikko K
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| Posted: Sat Jun 30, 2007 4:01 pm |
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| Sounds like he needs to grow a thicker skin. |
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Drew
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| Posted: Sat Jun 30, 2007 11:08 pm |
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| Stop hanging out with him and get a girlfriend. The problems won't go away, but the benefits will be much better. |
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Ian Jones
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| Posted: Sat Jun 30, 2007 11:53 pm |
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| he gets injured? hang on... do these arguments involved fists? |
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Andromeda
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| Posted: Sun Jul 01, 2007 12:21 am |
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You could try saying whatever it is you need to say with a smile... even a fake one.
like this -> *grin* "you have serious B.O" *more grins*
might help lighten up the situation ...
this guy must be one of those 'emotionally unstable' types . |
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math
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| Posted: Sun Jul 01, 2007 10:33 am |
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| Ian Jones wrote: |
| he gets injured? hang on... do these arguments involved fists? |
lol no  But like self injury stuff -.-
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| Posted: Sun Jul 01, 2007 11:25 am |
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dont get a girlfriend for yourself but get a girlfriend for him  I know surely that he'd listen more and be less upset when she is saying rubbish things llol |
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eyewoo
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| Posted: Sun Jul 01, 2007 11:51 am |
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You get a girlfriend... get him a therapist - seriously. he needs a therapist.
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Drew
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| Posted: Sun Jul 01, 2007 1:36 pm |
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| eyewoo wrote: |
| You get a girlfriend... get him a therapist - seriously. he needs a therapist. |
Agreed. Intentionally injuring yourself is a sign of depression which can be very serious. Tell him that he needs help, and if he doesn't get it, tell his parents. Seriously. I've had friends suffer from depression and it's not pretty at all. |
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Matthew
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| Posted: Tue Jul 03, 2007 2:30 am |
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hmm
Is this art or don't you like him as a person? Well if art, maybe give him feedback on one part you like and one part you do not like and explain perhaps on the not like part what it is you don't like and, and...and hmm. well yea.
Personally I do not like critique, do you really have to tell him anything? Critique involves so much, wish forums like these could understand that more but hell who am I to criticise anyway? |
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